E014: An Unconscious Cry for Help

Many people give off an unconscious cry for help. They are hurting and they don’t even know it. It’s the secret behind all the hate in the world.

[00:00:35] Welcome back to another solo episode of What We’re Not Talking About with yours truly, Amy D. It's November 2nd when I'm recording this, and I have had quite an interesting day today. So, I used to be a morning person. Well, let's be real. It was for about five months. It was really cool. I really liked it.

And then my dad died. I'm not gonna lie. I'm not gonna soft soften this for you. My dad died. And then I lost the will to temporarily get up at 5:00 AM. I can imagine you guys understand. But I'm getting there again. I'm getting excited. A weird pattern happens in my life. When I start something, when I begin to do what I procrastinated on or really just pretending,  I don't need to start or restart.

I finally get the motivation and get everything ready. And then I get up and get the habit re-established. No, that's not really how it goes, but anyways, yeah. So, today I woke up at six, very early for me. Normally, I wake up at nine. I stayed excited the day on! I meditated, I read, I did all this stuff, took my dog for a walk. Then I went to take my mom to the hospital for just about 30 minutes.

On my way out of my building, I saw that my delivery meal service had been delivered to me from Hello Fresh.

This is not a sponsored post. So, I think most of you are familiar with Hello Fresh. And I was like, “Okay, I'll pick that up when I get in.” Normally they drop it off around 5:00 PM. So I was very excited. Little did I know about an unconscious cry for help I would discover.

So I came back, brought my dog in, and did all that stuff. I went back down and the box was not there. And I was like, “All right, this is, this is strange.” I have had packages that have been left in the lobby stored in my building manager’s room before. I don't know why, they always take it just to make sure no one takes anything. And I went to them. I asked, “Oh, like, do you have it?” They're like, “No.” I asked the cleaning lady because we had both been in the lobby when I left. I wanted to ensure that I wasn't crazy, and I did actually see a box.

She said, “Yeah.” I get the superintendent to look at the cameras. I remembered, “Oh, yeah. We have cameras, duh.” So I explained, “Hey, this situation, they took my food. I just want to let you know, it cost $80 worth of stuff, it's not crazy. It's still a bummer that I don't have it, but it's not like a thousand dollars or anything like that.”

[00:03:14] So momentarily, my super got back to me. He said, “We got the person. He lives in this unit. I need you to follow a police report.” And I'm like, “Oh, dear lord. I don't want to talk to the police.”

It was settling in that I was robbed. Was it an unconscious cry for help?

But after talking to my friend, my superintendent, he persuaded me to call. I did and had a lovely conversation with the dispatcher.

Don't worry. I called the non-immediate line, and I filed a report. And essentially what it comes down to is he has to give me say the, the remaining money, which is $80, or I will file a report and we have evidence and then he'll go to court and I'm just like, “Oh dear Lord. Why did I do this?” And then I started to freak out because the fact that we have cameras in this building is not a hidden fact.

There are signs everywhere saying you're on camera, and it feels a little bit like big brother, you know? But anyways, it’s not like he was not aware that there were cameras. You know what I mean? Like he knew there were cameras. And he was in the elevator with his dog, making him a suspect that is much more obvious of who he is, because he has a specific dog

In the elevator, the camera didn't pick up his face, but it did pick up the dog. That's how he was caught. I've watched a lot of Criminal Minds. So, it's a little unnerving that this man did that considering it was very easy to incriminate him.

It's also a little unnerving because my superintendent told me that he's actually having a lot of troubles with this guy.

[00:04:46] So, he's already in the spotlight. People are already looking out to see if he messes up. Then he just looked at a box and said, “Yep, I'm going to take this.” And then went up in the elevator with his dog and stole it.

I don't know, guys. I know this seems like a very small incident or experience. Let me tell you for me, it's not. And it's not because I don't care about it. I don't care that he took that money/food from me. What I care about is that he did it, and he did it knowing that he would get caught.

I was robbed, sure, but is this not an unconscious cry for help? It makes me wonder if he even knew what he was doing, which leads me to my second thought. What if this guy is actually experiencing a mental break or a resurgence of symptoms? Or maybe this is just who he is? That's not natural. I do not believe that anyone is born like that.

COVID and 2020 has seriously... Guys, I don't know. It's a little scary. It's taking so much from us. Anyone can see it’s taken our jobs, our livelihoods, our security, our sense of control, our mental health, our relationships. And a lot of people are not in the current space in their lives to process one of these things, let alone multiple things.

To top it off, there are two big issues going on.

I was robbed, but there’s more going on in the world than that. Many give an unconscious cry for help everyday. But when they don’t get that help, bad things happen. Where I live in Nova Scotia, there was a mass murder mass shooting in I believe it was May of this year. It was horrible. I can't even begin. And then there's also some very heated - that's an understatement - violent fishermen protesting and destroying indigenous livelihood. They are giving off an unconscious cry for help and they don’t even know it.

So, we're a hot mess up here just like the United States.

And I'm a little scared. Because one, he lives in my building. Two, he knows who I am because he has my food box. My name and address appear on it. Three, he doesn't know that he might need help, that he’s putting out an unconscious cry for help.

That leads me to a question that I wonder about. How do we, or do we, help those people that can't help themselves? And if we do help them, how do we gain access to them?

[00:07:35] Because these the people don't search on social media and YouTube and Google for self-help fixes. These people that don't meditate or try to do yoga or Tai Chi or some form of exercise regularly to calm their nervous system down.

These are the people that are on Facebook, spreading hate and bigotry because they are in so much pain.

So much hurt and so much emotion keeps going on in these people that they do not know how to react. Now, my understanding is this man is white man. I can't believe I'm about to say this, but it's been a hard 10 years for the white men. There’s been a lot of things happening.

And there are a lot of changes. A lot of white men are rolling with the punches. They're right there on the front lines advocating. But there's a lot of people, a lot of white men, that are not there. That fear that if people who they think should stay stationed under them get rights and money and happiness, they won't keep their share or station anymore.

And that's the real problem.

I was robbed, but that’s not so important. The important part is that people need help and don’t even know it. They give off an unconscious cry for help. And we need to show them love and light.